Compromising or giving up?

They say that marriage is about compromise but when does the compromising begin? Does it start when you have your first fight as husband and wife? Or once you've passed the honeymoon phase? Or does it start right from the wedding? Growng up, I've been led to believe that the wedding was all about the bride. It was about bringing the bride's fairy tale dreams to real life and everyone indulging her lavish wishes. But ever since I've begun this planning process, I feel like the wedding I'm working to build is nothing like the one I envisioned. To appease my parents, I gave up my idea of an intimate wedding, To accomodate the large number of guests, I gave up my beach reception. To follow the guidelines of the church, I gave up the song I wanted to walk down the aisle to. To stay within the budget, I gave up my dress. Sometimes I can fool myself to think that this is for the better but then there are times when I don't even know whose wedding I'm planning.